Accidental Caregiver

Caregiver’s Question:   

“I am so overwhelmed with trying to balance work, my family and the needs of my mother who has so many health issues. It seems impossible to please her. I try to do the right things, but at the end of the day I’m exhausted. What should I do?”


Sometimes there just doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day to get everything done, but it also sounds like you have a bit of self-talk here as well…and you are not being very kind to you. Each week, make a list of what you will be doing for your mom. Check off each task as you complete the task. At the end of each week, take stock of all that you’ve accomplished…not what you have NOT accomplished. Compliment yourself. Know it’s OK to be “good enough:” 


1. Recognize there’s only so much that one person can do.

2. Delegate by accepting help from friends, family.

3. Appreciate being “Good Enough.” 

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"I’m often asked questions by overwhelmed caregivers to older loved ones, because I’m an Aging Life Care Professional.  I provide Answers, Advocacy and Alternatives to those caregivers; I am an option-maker for the decision-makers who are juggling caregiving with their other life responsibilities." Charlotte Bishop, MS, CRC, GCM, CCM, LCPC


This column was created because I’m often asked many questions by overwhelmed caregivers to older loved ones. As an Aging Life Care Professional I provide Answers, Advocacy and Alternatives to individuals coping with this challenge while maintaining their life responsibilities. Please send your questions to: